Christian Premarital Counseling, Online

Virtual Christian premarital counseling with a vetted guide. Have the conversations that matter before you walk down the aisle.

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Cheryl Stevens

Licensed Pastoral Counselor, NCCA

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Somewhere between the engagement and the wedding, the thing being built starts to feel bigger than the day being planned. Flowers, venue, guest list, all of it goes quiet next to the question underneath: are we ready for this?

That's what premarital counseling is for. It isn't a test and it isn't a warning. It's a place to have the real conversations while there's still room for them, before a shared life makes them harder to start.

What you will cover together

Every couple brings a different set of backgrounds, assumptions, and blind spots into a marriage. Your guide tailors the conversation to what matters most for you, but most couples find themselves working through these.

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Alexis Arellano

M.Div. Messianic Jewish Studies

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Communication

How do you handle disagreement? Do you withdraw or pursue when things get tense? Most conflict in marriage is not about the issue on the surface but about how two people with different wiring handle the same moment.

Expectations

Everyone walks into marriage with a picture of what it is supposed to look like, from parents, culture, church, and sources you may not be aware of. Your guide helps you name those out loud so you can decide together which to keep.

Faith

What does it look like to build a home with God at the center? Spiritual alignment is not agreeing on every doctrinal detail. It is sharing a direction, a willingness to grow and seek God together even when it is uncomfortable.

Conflict

You will disagree. The question is whether you will learn to fight fair: to stay curious instead of defensive, to repair quickly, to assume the best about each other in the heat of the moment.

Finances

Money is one of the most common sources of tension in marriage. How do you think about spending, saving, giving, debt? A safe place to have those conversations honestly before you combine your lives.

Intimacy

Physical and emotional intimacy are deeply connected, and the patterns you establish early matter. Expectations, boundaries, and the kind of closeness you both want to build, talked about with honesty and without shame.

The ceremony lasts an hour. The covenant lasts a lifetime.

Most couples spend months planning the wedding and almost no time preparing for the marriage.

Premarital guidance helps you build the habits, the honesty, and the shared understanding that will carry you through the first year and every year after. It surfaces the conversations you might be avoiding, not because you do not love each other, but because some things are easier to leave unspoken when everything feels good.

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Stoller Reinhard

M.A. Theological Studies

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We'll have times of discussion and listening together, ultimately looking for Jesus' presence and loving truth in the midst of it. No matter what you're facing or how you want to grow, Jesus sees you there and is with you.

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Matched to you both

You are matched with a vetted pastor or biblical counselor based on your needs and faith background. Only guides approved for premarital work take these sessions.
No rigid curriculum

Your guide brings structure and experience, but the conversations are driven by what you actually need, not a workbook.
Your pace, your schedule

Some couples meet weekly. Others spread sessions out over a longer engagement. You set the pace, and your guide helps you go deeper than you would on your own.
Someone who will challenge you

A guide who understands the weight and the wonder of what you are stepping into. Someone who will challenge you, encourage you, and help you lay the groundwork for a marriage that lasts.

Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain.

Psalm 127:1

Premarital guidance is that building, done on purpose. The groundwork for a marriage that lasts gets laid before you say "I do," in the conversations most couples never quite get around to.

When to start

Earlier than you think. Many couples begin as soon as they get engaged. Others start before a proposal, when they know the relationship is heading somewhere serious.

But there is no wrong time. If your wedding is weeks away and you have not had these conversations, start now. The goal is not to check a box. It is to walk into your marriage with open eyes and honest hearts.

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Cheryl Stevens

Licensed Pastoral Counselor, NCCA

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Wed at 7:00pm
50-min virtual session
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Reading from Cheryl: Psalm 27
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Note from Cheryl: "How did Wednesday land?"

What sessions look like

Format: Video. Fifty minutes, face to face, from wherever you are.
Cadence: Some couples meet weekly. Others spread sessions out over a longer engagement.
Who leads: A vetted pastor or biblical counselor approved for premarital work, matched to your needs and faith background.
Switching: If your guide isn't the right fit, switching takes one message and no difficult conversation.
Cost: $100 per session, charged after you meet. Church partners and reduced-rate options are on the pricing page.

Guides who take this

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Licensed Pastoral Counselor, NCCA

Cheryl Stevens

Discipleship Spiritual Formation Biblical Counseling

I am a biblical counselor, ministry leader, and disciple-maker with nearly twenty years of ministry experience. Since 2006, I have served in a variety of leadership roles including worship ministry, women's ministry, mentoring, discipleship, and church planting. My passion for counseling grew out of my own journey of healing and spiritual growth. After experiencing compassion fatigue and burnout in ministry, I began a deeper process of understanding God's grace, healing from past wounds, and discovering my identity in Christ. That journey sparked a desire to help others find the same hope, freedom, and peace that I found in Him. Today, I especially enjoy walking alongside women who are navigating grief, life transitions, spiritual burnout, questions of identity and purpose, and the challenges of growing in their relationship with God. One of my greatest joys is watching Christ restore others into the people He created them to be. Pre-Marital Counseling: Marriage is one of God's greatest gifts, and I believe preparing for it is about much more than planning a wedding; it's about building a life together. My approach combines biblical discipleship, emotional health, and practical relationship tools to help couples strengthen communication, navigate challenges with grace, and cultivate habits that support a healthy, Christ-centered marriage. My hope is that every couple leaves feeling encouraged, equipped, and confident as they begin this new season together.

Forgiveness and ReconciliationBurnout and WearinessPeople Pleasing

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M.A. Theological Studies

Stoller Reinhard

Discipleship Spiritual Formation Biblical Counseling

I offer both discipleship and biblical counseling, depending on what you need right now, with a focus on compassion, listening, the character of God, and Scriptural formation.

Growing Closer to GodNew TestamentBiblical Theology

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M.Div. Messianic Jewish Studies

Alexis Arellano

Biblical Counseling

Alexis Arellano, M.Div., is a Board Certified Biblical Counselor with a Master of Divinity in Messianic Jewish Studies. She has taught and lectured at both the university and Bible school levels, equipping students and ministry leaders in biblical counseling, discipleship, and spiritual formation. Alexis specializes in premarital counseling, utilizing the evidence-based PREPARE/ENRICH program to help engaged and dating couples build strong, healthy, Christ-centered marriages. Through this research-supported assessment and counseling process, she equips couples with practical skills in communication, conflict resolution, financial stewardship, spiritual intimacy, and relationship growth, helping them establish a solid foundation for lifelong commitment. Combining theological depth with practical application, Alexis helps individuals, couples, and families navigate life's challenges through a Christ-centered, Scripture-based approach. Her counseling integrates biblical truth with proven relational principles, fostering spiritual maturity, emotional health, and lasting transformation.

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Questions people ask before booking

More on the pricing page and in the full FAQ.

When should we start?

Earlier than you think. Many couples begin as soon as they get engaged. Others start before a proposal, when they know the relationship is heading somewhere serious. If your wedding is weeks away and you have not had these conversations, start now. The goal is not to check a box.

Is there a set curriculum?

No. Your guide brings structure and experience, but the conversations are driven by what you actually need. Some couples meet weekly. Others spread sessions out over a longer engagement. You set the pace.

Do we both need to be Christians?

No. BetterFaith is built around the gospel of Jesus Christ, and our guides come to every conversation from that conviction, but you do not need to share that faith to be here. Your guide will meet you both where you are, not where they wish you were.

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Christian Premarital Counseling, Online

Cheryl Stevens

What you will cover together

The ceremony lasts an hour. The covenant lasts a lifetime.

How it works on BetterFaith

When to start

What sessions look like

Guides who take this

Cheryl Stevens

Stoller Reinhard

Alexis Arellano

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